to guide you,
not define you."
"Your past mistakes are meant
to guide you,
not define you."
Getting caught up in our past errors comes naturally, though to some of us more than others. It becomes difficult to move forward when you get stuck in that cycle, especially if those past mistakes happened more than once. A fear of repeating failure or going down a problematic path yet again doesn't go away as easily as you'd would hope. Rather it sticks around, popping out of the blue like a ghost playing a game of hide & seek, not seen but a presence always felt. But, we have to remind ourselves that the mistakes of yesterday and years past do not define us forever, rather there are markers of where we have been and reminders of what to look for in the future. It's really hard to forget the pain they bring sometimes, but in order to make them a benefit and not a burden, we must focus on what lessons our mistakes held for us. A guide for tomorrow, rather than a burden to bear.
The time will never
be just right."
This quote is completely different from what I usually talk about on the blog. Being ready for something or waiting for the right time is something I say often when considering something that I am not altogether sure I am ready for. Yet as the past year or so has shown me, you are never quite ready for what comes next. Now that is not to say that you should intentionally be unprepared or not learn new things, but more so that we have be to willing to take chances and work towards things, even as the fear or uncertainty scares us along the way. There are a few major things that come to mind when I think about this line of thinking, goals that I made for myself but am nervous about. Yet, I am hoping in to make a decided effort to work towards them, despite the mist of unpredictability and potential failures and setbacks that may come my way. While the timing may be less than 100%, the fact is it never will be perfect. And as time goes, the longer I wait, the more opportunities will pass me by and the last thing I want is to look back and regret all the chances I didn't take and feel like I didn't make the most of the life I was given. With that in mind, I hope to make the most of what comes next and grow as a person, regardless of the lack of sureness, I may feel right now.
"You will not always be motivated,
so you must learn to be disciplined."
Isn't that the truth? There are some times where motivation seems to fly out the window and is in no hurry to return. A sense of direction remains but the will to pursue the path we desire is often wanting. It is almost as if all the drive, ambition, and sense of purpose that propels us to move forward and grow simply fizzles away. How can that be?
Why it happens, I don't think any of us can really say. Motivation and drive is good and well but a poor master to rely on exclusively to reach our potential. After all motivation is only good as the consistent and conscious effort we put into all that we do. Discipline is essential to reach the goals we set for ourselves and achieve the dreams that otherwise remain figments of an imagination unbound by reality and the hurdles we face in life.
I write this post today largely as a reminder to myself to remember that motivation is the belief but discipline is the action required to grow. It can be difficult to establish, especially at the beginning and almost nearly as difficult to maintain but all that we pursue is what we deem worthwhile of our time and attention and therefore I really should not be surprised that what I want to become requires such effort and commitment consistently and rigorously, sometimes even tirelessly so.
Never let your feelings
get in the way of seeing things
as they truly are
But it's easy to get swept up isn't it? For me, anyways. I think this quote is interesting because it gives a different message depending on the feelings in a particular situation. In times of happiness, it can be a bit saddening, while in times of anger or disappointment, it can be reassuring. But regardless of what we feel, understanding the bigger picture is always eyeopening and reminds us of the world beyond ourselves.
Admitting to this though can be difficult, especially when you are caught up in the excitement of a moment and realize, it is just a moment. That disappointment is often a cruel awakening of sorts, when you figure out that something you had hoped for is not what you thought it was.
While this is something that is trying to follow as a standard rule of thumb, it is useful to keep in mind and consider when things go one way and then another or if the general circumstances around you leave you filling disheartened or lost.
Learn to embrace
the storms of your life.
It kind of seems strange to choose a quote like this in the summer but it fits too well for me to consider another. Sometimes,you find yourself at the crossroads of multiple major realizations and/or changes, making the present seem overwhelming and the future rather daunting. It is hard in those times to gain the perspective necessary to handle them. It gets even more complicated when you think you have figured something out and then a 180 degree turn happens and then you're back to square one. These "storms" of our lives are often difficult but they are also the birthplace of our greatest growth and most memorable triumphs. They encourage within us the sometimes dormant strength we forget that we have until circumstance calls upon us to utilize it. As hard and painful as they may be, they push us forward and keep us from becoming complacent and stagnant. And this is what I hope to remind myself when the winds get too strong. The growth that I seek requires an ability to weather the unexpected and prevail through the difficulties. So rather than run from them, I should engage with them thoughtfully and willingly.
"To be happy
you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
I think it's really hard to do these things at times. As much as you know this to be true; turning these thoughts into actions can be a bit overwhelming. It probably is best to take things one at a time, settle each matter piece by piece rather than attempt to accomplish all of this in one try. And I think it is important that we do not limit ourselves to dealing with such things in a linear fashion. Sometimes the right time to deal with something comes up rather unexpectedly, which goes to show us that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is not try to over-control any one aspect of our lives. In doing so, we may be limiting ourselves, forgoing opportunities, and ignoring potential.
"Be strong enough to stand alone,
smart enough enough to know when you need help,
and brave enough to ask for it."
I really like this quote because it focuses on the balance between independence and interpersonal connection. More often than not, we find ourselves heavily on one side of the balance, either totally independent and detached from others or largely dependent on others' opinions and actions, struggling to simply be ourselves. Of course, this also includes the large gray area in between where we are still struggle with the issues of being ourselves yet being apart of something more as well. There are, as we can all attest to, benefits to being able to stand on our own two feet yet have relationships and communities that make our lives more meaningful.
That being said, the quote does highlight a general outline of how to balance the two and achieve something we might call interdependence, independence that is brave enough to admit when the support of others is need and seek it at those times. It would be nice to say that finding this balance is as easy as this quote makes it seem. However, we each have our various experiences and circumstances which affect how this balance will likely play out. In the end, only we can determine just how to do so; what we determine is necessary for to be fully ourselves without disregarding the importance of the people in our lives is entirely personal and unique and therefore cannot be determined by anyone else.
"Never let success get to your head.
Never let failure get to your heart."
This quote is just what I needed to hear. Sometimes it can be so difficult to maintain motivation; it feels like it is a pendulum at times, constantly swinging. When it is high, everything seems to work out and then when it falls, everything seems just a bit more impossible.
I like this quote because it emphasizes that there is a two-pronged approach to maintaining motivation. The first is about humility; our achievements ought to be celebrated and we have every right to be proud of them but we should do our best not to get so caught up in them that we neglect the other important parts of our life and the world around us. The second part is what about accepting failure as a step along a journey, not as a final destination. In times of constant hardship and/or repeated failure, it is so tempting to just give into the feelings of incompetence and give up. And, I think it is important to acknowledge these feelings as a momentary trial, not a lifelong burden. Dismissing them altogether seems harsh, but it is also important to get back into swing of things after time has been taken to set back and process what has taken place. It is daunting task, but I think it is important to remember that we are not given burdens greater than we can bare and we are always stronger than we think we are.
So here's a commitment to always strive forward and to be our best selves while doing so!
Hope you all have a wonderful week! And as always questions, comments, and suggestions are welcome.
"Remember, we will only end up
what we are willing to work to become."
Duly noted! Well, I would not be completely honest if I said that I invested the time in myself that I ought to. Sometimes, it can be the daunting amount of things to accomplish that make it seem too difficult or just that the hours in the day seem to never be enough. But at the end of the day, I know I am making excuses for myself. My long list is no longer than it's ever been nor am I allotted less than 24 hours each day. But that does not make it any less overwhelming.
While I haven't come up with a foolproof plan yet (let's be honest, that it's pretty unlikely anyway!), I hope to remember the little steps that I take are better than none at all and that in order to achieve any growth, the time and effort investment has to be there.
"The capacity to learn is a gift;
the ability to learn is a skill;
the willingness to learn is a choice."
In preparing for a presentation I have this week, I came across this quote and immediately thought it belonged here. As someone who loves to learn and believes any and all opportunities to do so should be taken, I was happy to see that it emphasizes that learning is a choice. One that we have to make in order to make the most of our experiences, chosen and unchosen. Unfortunately, this sentiment is sometimes lost and you often hear people saying that "such and such is irrelevant" or "I don't want to learn that/I can't learn it!"
In so many ways, your attitude towards learning largely determines whether you learn or not. If you believe there is something to be learned and therefore some benefit, you'll make the time and effort to do so. But if you think the opportunity is useless and forced upon you, you likely won't make the most of it.
I think you could liken the situation to that of a good friend, a good friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear and likewise a good learning experience teaches you what you need to grow, not just what you already know. The key for success in both situations is choosing to listen and learn from what is there.
So, there's really not much to tell. I'm a person of many interests, and talking to others about theirs.
So, I guess that's it for now!