you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
"To be happy
you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
I think it's really hard to do these things at times. As much as you know this to be true; turning these thoughts into actions can be a bit overwhelming. It probably is best to take things one at a time, settle each matter piece by piece rather than attempt to accomplish all of this in one try. And I think it is important that we do not limit ourselves to dealing with such things in a linear fashion. Sometimes the right time to deal with something comes up rather unexpectedly, which goes to show us that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is not try to over-control any one aspect of our lives. In doing so, we may be limiting ourselves, forgoing opportunities, and ignoring potential.
"Be strong enough to stand alone,
smart enough enough to know when you need help,
and brave enough to ask for it."
I really like this quote because it focuses on the balance between independence and interpersonal connection. More often than not, we find ourselves heavily on one side of the balance, either totally independent and detached from others or largely dependent on others' opinions and actions, struggling to simply be ourselves. Of course, this also includes the large gray area in between where we are still struggle with the issues of being ourselves yet being apart of something more as well. There are, as we can all attest to, benefits to being able to stand on our own two feet yet have relationships and communities that make our lives more meaningful.
That being said, the quote does highlight a general outline of how to balance the two and achieve something we might call interdependence, independence that is brave enough to admit when the support of others is need and seek it at those times. It would be nice to say that finding this balance is as easy as this quote makes it seem. However, we each have our various experiences and circumstances which affect how this balance will likely play out. In the end, only we can determine just how to do so; what we determine is necessary for to be fully ourselves without disregarding the importance of the people in our lives is entirely personal and unique and therefore cannot be determined by anyone else.
"Never let success get to your head.
Never let failure get to your heart."
This quote is just what I needed to hear. Sometimes it can be so difficult to maintain motivation; it feels like it is a pendulum at times, constantly swinging. When it is high, everything seems to work out and then when it falls, everything seems just a bit more impossible.
I like this quote because it emphasizes that there is a two-pronged approach to maintaining motivation. The first is about humility; our achievements ought to be celebrated and we have every right to be proud of them but we should do our best not to get so caught up in them that we neglect the other important parts of our life and the world around us. The second part is what about accepting failure as a step along a journey, not as a final destination. In times of constant hardship and/or repeated failure, it is so tempting to just give into the feelings of incompetence and give up. And, I think it is important to acknowledge these feelings as a momentary trial, not a lifelong burden. Dismissing them altogether seems harsh, but it is also important to get back into swing of things after time has been taken to set back and process what has taken place. It is daunting task, but I think it is important to remember that we are not given burdens greater than we can bare and we are always stronger than we think we are.
So here's a commitment to always strive forward and to be our best selves while doing so!
Hope you all have a wonderful week! And as always questions, comments, and suggestions are welcome.
"Remember, we will only end up
what we are willing to work to become."
Duly noted! Well, I would not be completely honest if I said that I invested the time in myself that I ought to. Sometimes, it can be the daunting amount of things to accomplish that make it seem too difficult or just that the hours in the day seem to never be enough. But at the end of the day, I know I am making excuses for myself. My long list is no longer than it's ever been nor am I allotted less than 24 hours each day. But that does not make it any less overwhelming.
While I haven't come up with a foolproof plan yet (let's be honest, that it's pretty unlikely anyway!), I hope to remember the little steps that I take are better than none at all and that in order to achieve any growth, the time and effort investment has to be there.
"The capacity to learn is a gift;
the ability to learn is a skill;
the willingness to learn is a choice."
In preparing for a presentation I have this week, I came across this quote and immediately thought it belonged here. As someone who loves to learn and believes any and all opportunities to do so should be taken, I was happy to see that it emphasizes that learning is a choice. One that we have to make in order to make the most of our experiences, chosen and unchosen. Unfortunately, this sentiment is sometimes lost and you often hear people saying that "such and such is irrelevant" or "I don't want to learn that/I can't learn it!"
In so many ways, your attitude towards learning largely determines whether you learn or not. If you believe there is something to be learned and therefore some benefit, you'll make the time and effort to do so. But if you think the opportunity is useless and forced upon you, you likely won't make the most of it.
I think you could liken the situation to that of a good friend, a good friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear and likewise a good learning experience teaches you what you need to grow, not just what you already know. The key for success in both situations is choosing to listen and learn from what is there.
"I'm learning to trust the journey
even when I do not understand it."
Well, that's certainly something isn't it? The truth in this statement is comforting; the journeys we take are often confusing and this can trouble the mind more than we'd care to admit. Sometimes I wish I could be the bigger picture just so that I could get a better sense of what's going on. With such major changes and unexpected events happening constantly, it feels as though nothing is quite as it seems. And this is a little scary.
But when I look back at previous times that were similar, I realize that they had a way of coming together and creating a journey that gave me what I needed most. So with that in mind, I am just going to trust that there's so much out there I cannot see and that there's always a silver lining even in the strangest and hardest of times.
"You have only failed,
if you have given up
Defining failure as something we choose rather than something that happens to us is the key in overcoming obstacles and building endurance. When this is done, we not only take responsibility for ourselves but also prove that we are (at the end of the day) our most important investment. This serves as an important reminder when things do not go as planned and setbacks seem to start piling up. While no one wants to hear that such events are great learning experiences (even when we know they are!), it is important to note that the state of "failure" as many call it is in fact a voluntary and temporary one and cannot be permanent if we do not choose to make it so.
For anyone going through rough times or difficult situations, I am aware this post may seem over simplified and maybe a bit heartless as no one can truly understand the troubles that others face. Which is why I think it is important to acknowledge that comebacks usually take longer than setbacks to happen and have effect. And this time does not mean someone is necessarily weak or indecisive but rather is taking the time needed to fully learn from their experiences and grow as a person. These experiences are often more bearable with the support of loved ones, but at the end of the day are extremely personal too because only we have the power to choose what we do next.
"Don't despise what
you've been through.
You needed the lessons."
I wish I could say I am someone who looks back at the past and quickly remembers its lessons. Unfortunately, I haven't gotten there yet. More often than not, I grumble and wish my past was something else, something other than what it has been.
But as time goes on, I've grown to appreciate more of my experiences. the good and the not-so-good. While not all of them bring back the pleasantest of memories, they do bring reminders, ones of strength, gratitude,hope, determination, love, and faith. These things are invaluable and to despise the lesser than lovely experiences would be to disregard everything they've gifted me. They've taught me to look beyond the surface of the water and the clouds in the sky and realize there is more than one side to every story and that each relationship you have is unique and different as the people you have them with. Nothing can be taken for granted and everything matters. For this, I am grateful for everything I've experienced because it has taught to appreciate everything I have today.
"Interrupt anxiety with gratitude."
With everything that is going on right now, I found this quote to be a powerful reminder of how to live in times of tension, uncertainty, and pain. For anyone who feels anxious right now as I do, I think the essence of this quote helps to stem the intense shock, disbelief, and sorrow from being too overwhelming. In times of hatred, ingratitude, and selfishness, we must invest even more time into actions of appreciation, words of gratitude, and moments of kindness.
For every negative thing we see, we must acknowledge, if not do, something to counterbalance it. If someone is rude, be especially kind to someone else, if someone ignores you/doesn't appreciate you, appreciate those who are there for you, and if it is one of those days where goodness isn't apparent, think about all the struggles you know that others have that you do not, as a reminder that even in our darkest days, someone out there has it much harder than we do.
Hope you all had a great week and a wonderful weekend!
P.S. I hope this post wasn't too somber. The events of this past week (and really this past year or so) have been so upsetting that I felt I had to talk about in some way. Let's hope that with the little things we can turn the page to a better time in history and leave the world a better place than it was when we entered it.
"Sometimes it is not meant to be understood, just accepted."
Acceptance, I think is by far the one of hardest to come by and fully grasp. It requires you to acknowledge everything that has happened, something many of us have trouble with. Considering we tend to not think about anything we aren't willing to face. You can't however move on with life, when you're living in the past with all its regrets, lost dreams and sorrows. That only makes life harder, because you are forced to eventually accept the truth on someone else' terms, a situation that is never good. Terms that lead you to realize that avoiding your past was the worst thing you could have done. It shows you to see the things you had right in front of you, but never got around to appreciating.
So, there's really not much to tell. I'm a person of many interests, and talking to others about theirs.
So, I guess that's it for now!