"Happiness blooms from within."
Sometimes I find myself thinking about the present and feeling dissatisfied; issues arise and seem to be impossible to address and I wonder if it is too much to hope for them to be resolved. Almost immediately after that I am filled with a strong sense of guilt; ingratitude is a terrible thing and I do not to find myself in a place where I cannot be grateful for everything that is going well or getting better. But it is difficult; some things in life are cyclic and without a possible end in sight, some struggles appear as though they are lifelong and that can be very discouraging. How do you find contentment when so much is going awry? Perhaps, it is intuitive, but remembering that happiness and content does not come from outside sources is key especially when things are hard. Happiness is a state of mind. That is not to say that you will always be happy, but it is a reminder that if you are always looking for the source of personal joy outwardly, you'll always be expecting more than what is there. Life will always be wanting, because things could be better or different than they are. So my hope is in finding the moments that draw smiles and laughter and remembering all that is, rather than all that is not, I'll also find what I need to handle all the cycles and happenings, even when it does not seem to be getting better.
"Life is all about how you handle Plan B."
It really is, isn't it? The way life turns out is almost always so different than what we imagine it will be. There's the random thing that you didn't plan for, the dreams that get delayed, the people who show up and the people who leave, all of this is part of the journey we find ourselves on.
It's easy to get discouraged, especially when plans we've invested so much in fall through or keep getting postponed. But I think that so much of the quality of the life we live is related to the message in this quote. Life isn't about how we handle things when they go our way; it is about all the moments when it doesn't. How we handle the bends, turns, twists and other surprises of life is ultimately comes to define our journey. So with that in mind, we have a choice, to make the best of what we have or wistfully think of what could have been.
"The root of joy is gratefulness."
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! Hope you all have a wonderful day spent with the ones you love most. I know that every year we consider our lives and remember all that we are thankful for but this year feels different. It has been an absolutely trying year for me personally and many across the world as each year is and sometimes certain events make us all the more aware of the many blessings we have, especially the ones we took for granted. It is these moments I am thankful for this year; I have a bad habit of questioning things at times and today I truly realize that everything happens for a reason. It may not appear to make sense but it serves a purpose that we have yet to consider. And that goes for the people in our lives too, relationships are not perfect but the feeling and depth behind them is what makes them so special and irreplaceable. Just something I need to remember on those days I get frustrated and feel less patient than I ought to.
Today, I am particularly thankful for fresh air. As many of you know, California struggled with severe wildfires these past weeks and the air quality was beyond what any of us imagined. The sayings about the blessings that we tend to overlook rings true today.
With that in mind, I wish every one of you a wonderful Thanksgiving once more and hope that you all have a great rest of 2018 as well! I know that I have not been posting as much but know I am always grateful for those of you who still visit Runwayffnd!
"Your past mistakes are meant
to guide you,
not define you."
Getting caught up in our past errors comes naturally, though to some of us more than others. It becomes difficult to move forward when you get stuck in that cycle, especially if those past mistakes happened more than once. A fear of repeating failure or going down a problematic path yet again doesn't go away as easily as you'd would hope. Rather it sticks around, popping out of the blue like a ghost playing a game of hide & seek, not seen but a presence always felt. But, we have to remind ourselves that the mistakes of yesterday and years past do not define us forever, rather there are markers of where we have been and reminders of what to look for in the future. It's really hard to forget the pain they bring sometimes, but in order to make them a benefit and not a burden, we must focus on what lessons our mistakes held for us. A guide for tomorrow, rather than a burden to bear.
The time will never
be just right."
This quote is completely different from what I usually talk about on the blog. Being ready for something or waiting for the right time is something I say often when considering something that I am not altogether sure I am ready for. Yet as the past year or so has shown me, you are never quite ready for what comes next. Now that is not to say that you should intentionally be unprepared or not learn new things, but more so that we have be to willing to take chances and work towards things, even as the fear or uncertainty scares us along the way. There are a few major things that come to mind when I think about this line of thinking, goals that I made for myself but am nervous about. Yet, I am hoping in to make a decided effort to work towards them, despite the mist of unpredictability and potential failures and setbacks that may come my way. While the timing may be less than 100%, the fact is it never will be perfect. And as time goes, the longer I wait, the more opportunities will pass me by and the last thing I want is to look back and regret all the chances I didn't take and feel like I didn't make the most of the life I was given. With that in mind, I hope to make the most of what comes next and grow as a person, regardless of the lack of sureness, I may feel right now.
"You will not always be motivated,
so you must learn to be disciplined."
Isn't that the truth? There are some times where motivation seems to fly out the window and is in no hurry to return. A sense of direction remains but the will to pursue the path we desire is often wanting. It is almost as if all the drive, ambition, and sense of purpose that propels us to move forward and grow simply fizzles away. How can that be?
Why it happens, I don't think any of us can really say. Motivation and drive is good and well but a poor master to rely on exclusively to reach our potential. After all motivation is only good as the consistent and conscious effort we put into all that we do. Discipline is essential to reach the goals we set for ourselves and achieve the dreams that otherwise remain figments of an imagination unbound by reality and the hurdles we face in life.
I write this post today largely as a reminder to myself to remember that motivation is the belief but discipline is the action required to grow. It can be difficult to establish, especially at the beginning and almost nearly as difficult to maintain but all that we pursue is what we deem worthwhile of our time and attention and therefore I really should not be surprised that what I want to become requires such effort and commitment consistently and rigorously, sometimes even tirelessly so.
Never let your feelings
get in the way of seeing things
as they truly are
But it's easy to get swept up isn't it? For me, anyways. I think this quote is interesting because it gives a different message depending on the feelings in a particular situation. In times of happiness, it can be a bit saddening, while in times of anger or disappointment, it can be reassuring. But regardless of what we feel, understanding the bigger picture is always eyeopening and reminds us of the world beyond ourselves.
Admitting to this though can be difficult, especially when you are caught up in the excitement of a moment and realize, it is just a moment. That disappointment is often a cruel awakening of sorts, when you figure out that something you had hoped for is not what you thought it was.
While this is something that is trying to follow as a standard rule of thumb, it is useful to keep in mind and consider when things go one way and then another or if the general circumstances around you leave you filling disheartened or lost.
Learn to embrace
the storms of your life.
It kind of seems strange to choose a quote like this in the summer but it fits too well for me to consider another. Sometimes,you find yourself at the crossroads of multiple major realizations and/or changes, making the present seem overwhelming and the future rather daunting. It is hard in those times to gain the perspective necessary to handle them. It gets even more complicated when you think you have figured something out and then a 180 degree turn happens and then you're back to square one. These "storms" of our lives are often difficult but they are also the birthplace of our greatest growth and most memorable triumphs. They encourage within us the sometimes dormant strength we forget that we have until circumstance calls upon us to utilize it. As hard and painful as they may be, they push us forward and keep us from becoming complacent and stagnant. And this is what I hope to remind myself when the winds get too strong. The growth that I seek requires an ability to weather the unexpected and prevail through the difficulties. So rather than run from them, I should engage with them thoughtfully and willingly.
"To be happy
you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
I think it's really hard to do these things at times. As much as you know this to be true; turning these thoughts into actions can be a bit overwhelming. It probably is best to take things one at a time, settle each matter piece by piece rather than attempt to accomplish all of this in one try. And I think it is important that we do not limit ourselves to dealing with such things in a linear fashion. Sometimes the right time to deal with something comes up rather unexpectedly, which goes to show us that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is not try to over-control any one aspect of our lives. In doing so, we may be limiting ourselves, forgoing opportunities, and ignoring potential.
"Be strong enough to stand alone,
smart enough enough to know when you need help,
and brave enough to ask for it."
I really like this quote because it focuses on the balance between independence and interpersonal connection. More often than not, we find ourselves heavily on one side of the balance, either totally independent and detached from others or largely dependent on others' opinions and actions, struggling to simply be ourselves. Of course, this also includes the large gray area in between where we are still struggle with the issues of being ourselves yet being apart of something more as well. There are, as we can all attest to, benefits to being able to stand on our own two feet yet have relationships and communities that make our lives more meaningful.
That being said, the quote does highlight a general outline of how to balance the two and achieve something we might call interdependence, independence that is brave enough to admit when the support of others is need and seek it at those times. It would be nice to say that finding this balance is as easy as this quote makes it seem. However, we each have our various experiences and circumstances which affect how this balance will likely play out. In the end, only we can determine just how to do so; what we determine is necessary for to be fully ourselves without disregarding the importance of the people in our lives is entirely personal and unique and therefore cannot be determined by anyone else.
So, there's really not much to tell. I'm a person of many interests, and talking to others about theirs.
So, I guess that's it for now!