you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
"To be happy
you have to
make peace with the past
love the present
and be excited for the future"
I think it's really hard to do these things at times. As much as you know this to be true; turning these thoughts into actions can be a bit overwhelming. It probably is best to take things one at a time, settle each matter piece by piece rather than attempt to accomplish all of this in one try. And I think it is important that we do not limit ourselves to dealing with such things in a linear fashion. Sometimes the right time to deal with something comes up rather unexpectedly, which goes to show us that one of the best things we can do for ourselves is not try to over-control any one aspect of our lives. In doing so, we may be limiting ourselves, forgoing opportunities, and ignoring potential.
"Be strong enough to stand alone,
smart enough enough to know when you need help,
and brave enough to ask for it."
I really like this quote because it focuses on the balance between independence and interpersonal connection. More often than not, we find ourselves heavily on one side of the balance, either totally independent and detached from others or largely dependent on others' opinions and actions, struggling to simply be ourselves. Of course, this also includes the large gray area in between where we are still struggle with the issues of being ourselves yet being apart of something more as well. There are, as we can all attest to, benefits to being able to stand on our own two feet yet have relationships and communities that make our lives more meaningful.
That being said, the quote does highlight a general outline of how to balance the two and achieve something we might call interdependence, independence that is brave enough to admit when the support of others is need and seek it at those times. It would be nice to say that finding this balance is as easy as this quote makes it seem. However, we each have our various experiences and circumstances which affect how this balance will likely play out. In the end, only we can determine just how to do so; what we determine is necessary for to be fully ourselves without disregarding the importance of the people in our lives is entirely personal and unique and therefore cannot be determined by anyone else.
"Never let success get to your head.
Never let failure get to your heart."
This quote is just what I needed to hear. Sometimes it can be so difficult to maintain motivation; it feels like it is a pendulum at times, constantly swinging. When it is high, everything seems to work out and then when it falls, everything seems just a bit more impossible.
I like this quote because it emphasizes that there is a two-pronged approach to maintaining motivation. The first is about humility; our achievements ought to be celebrated and we have every right to be proud of them but we should do our best not to get so caught up in them that we neglect the other important parts of our life and the world around us. The second part is what about accepting failure as a step along a journey, not as a final destination. In times of constant hardship and/or repeated failure, it is so tempting to just give into the feelings of incompetence and give up. And, I think it is important to acknowledge these feelings as a momentary trial, not a lifelong burden. Dismissing them altogether seems harsh, but it is also important to get back into swing of things after time has been taken to set back and process what has taken place. It is daunting task, but I think it is important to remember that we are not given burdens greater than we can bare and we are always stronger than we think we are.
So here's a commitment to always strive forward and to be our best selves while doing so!
Hope you all have a wonderful week! And as always questions, comments, and suggestions are welcome.
Well, it's been a long time since the last post! Far too long. Hopefully everyone's 2018 has gotten off to a good start! Unfortunately, my blogging schedule has been incredibly disorganized of late to the point where I have had so much to say but no words to write if that makes any sense.
That being said, I hope to rediscover my blogging vein and get back into posting at least once a week. I have a list of things I've wanted to talk about on the blog for a while now and hope to have them introduce themselves in the weeks to come.
And since the Quote of the Week posts are some of my favorites, I'll end with the quote below. It's one that is very similar to others I have posted before but its significance remains. Also, it is something I feel like I need to remind myself of more often.
"Gratitude is acknowledging the goodness in our lives as life exists today, not as we wish it to be."
2017 has been a trying year, in more ways than one. So many unexpected things took place and made it a year of revelations in a sense. It brought to light many issues and circumstances that have either been swept under the rug or blatantly ignored. And I suppose that is what made it harder to process, that we have known that there were issues to take care of yet insufficient effort has been put into solving them. As a result, 2017 has felt to many of us as a long year and uncertainty has been in many cases, a constant companion. With such seemingly grim reflections on this past year, it is difficult to find the brighter spots in the year. But though they were hidden, they were there. And I think we all can count at least a few of those moments in the past year, ones that made it so 2017 was better than it first appeared. And even in the harder times, there were lessons to be learned and understandings to be reached. I wish I could say I accepted these things early on but sometimes (more like most of the time) the hard way tends to be the way I go about doing things. Maybe 2018, I'll learn to do better.
I hope 2018 is a wonderful year for all of you and that it gets off to a great start! Hope to see you here often in the new year!
"Remember, we will only end up
what we are willing to work to become."
Duly noted! Well, I would not be completely honest if I said that I invested the time in myself that I ought to. Sometimes, it can be the daunting amount of things to accomplish that make it seem too difficult or just that the hours in the day seem to never be enough. But at the end of the day, I know I am making excuses for myself. My long list is no longer than it's ever been nor am I allotted less than 24 hours each day. But that does not make it any less overwhelming.
While I haven't come up with a foolproof plan yet (let's be honest, that it's pretty unlikely anyway!), I hope to remember the little steps that I take are better than none at all and that in order to achieve any growth, the time and effort investment has to be there.
“Leadership is a potent combination of strategy and character.
But if you must be without one, be without the strategy.”
Leadership is often a position sought out by many, though centuries of proof show it to be trying, difficult, uncertain and very unforgiving. Then why do so many people put all they have on line for just a taste of it?
Define leadership. It is the act of leading a group of people or an organization. Seems simple enough when you put it that, doesn't it? Unfortunately, it isn't. Leadership requires several skills and traits that not all of us have, and sometimes even if we do, it just won't cut it.
To be a good leader, takes skill, experience, patience, persistence, and of course responsibility. Skill and experience come hand in hand, if when given a task you pay attention and learn as much as possible, you'll be able to learn a new skill every time. Patience is hard to come by if you don't naturally have it, it tends to be impossible for many of us. However, with consistent effort and tolerance, it will come to you. Persistence is something essential, no matter what you decide to do with your life. It enables you to continue on with something, even during setbacks and hurdles thrown midway. It also helps build commitment and learn how to stick with something and see it through. Responsibility like persistence is a skill needed to accomplish anything of worth. Responsibility allows you to make the most of a situation by allowing you to see the whole picture and make plans from there. Running away from problems doesn't eliminate them, it only allows them to grow and hurt you later.
Charisma is a trait that makes leadership sail smoothly when communicating with others and boosting morale in a group. Charisma alone can turn a difficult situation into a golden opportunity. Though sometimes genetic, it is also a skill that can be developed. The key to charisma is positivity, and always having an opportunistic and optimistic attitude towards things, planned and unplanned. Taking that attitude and applying rational and realistic measures can turn the situation into an unbelievable chance at accomplishing amazing feats.
"If you can imagine it, you can achieve it;
if you can dream it, you can become it.”
–William Arthur Ward
Why do we dream? Envision a goal or pursue a challenge, when we could just lay back and take life as it comes? Why is something challenging more fulfilling than something easy? There's this feeling, that gives us a sense of purpose and fulfillment. It all comes down to one word, motivation.
Motivation is literally wanting to do something. Whether it's graduating college, getting a promotion, or simply getting organized. It is the difference between accomplishment and lazing around the house all day. It's crucial in setting up your plans for the future. But some people seem to be motivated all the time in everything they do, whereas others aren't motivated to anything. Why is this? What causes motivation to come across so strongly in some people?
These questions are ones we all have. However, the answers are hard to find, many theories have been tested and researched, but still come back with too many variables. Factors that affect motivation have been identified though, the most important being genetics, background, upbringing and personality. These factors are what psychologists look into when studying motivation and its causes.
Motivation to do things is often based on our psychological needs. A psychological need is something we need or yearn for in order to function. Achievement, self-esteem and social approval are examples of psychological needs. But unlike biological needs, psychological needs are not always based on deprivation, but rather to reassure and stabilize what is already there. Sometimes, certain psychological needs are emphasized through life experiences and can cause problems if they're not addressed.
Our personality types have a lot to do with how we use motivation and how much we really need. We all have fixed behavior patterns also known as instincts. These instincts are a driving force in how we deal with situations and proceed afterward.
Though motivation is key for most of us to pursue dreams and ambitions, it comes in many forms. There are some who love a challenge, the more challenging the more determined and focused they become. But then there are those who flee as soon as their plans go awry. Those people need more assurance and often reassurance to be able to fully devote the necessary time to accomplish something.
"The capacity to learn is a gift;
the ability to learn is a skill;
the willingness to learn is a choice."
In preparing for a presentation I have this week, I came across this quote and immediately thought it belonged here. As someone who loves to learn and believes any and all opportunities to do so should be taken, I was happy to see that it emphasizes that learning is a choice. One that we have to make in order to make the most of our experiences, chosen and unchosen. Unfortunately, this sentiment is sometimes lost and you often hear people saying that "such and such is irrelevant" or "I don't want to learn that/I can't learn it!"
In so many ways, your attitude towards learning largely determines whether you learn or not. If you believe there is something to be learned and therefore some benefit, you'll make the time and effort to do so. But if you think the opportunity is useless and forced upon you, you likely won't make the most of it.
I think you could liken the situation to that of a good friend, a good friend tells you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear and likewise a good learning experience teaches you what you need to grow, not just what you already know. The key for success in both situations is choosing to listen and learn from what is there.
"I'm learning to trust the journey
even when I do not understand it."
Well, that's certainly something isn't it? The truth in this statement is comforting; the journeys we take are often confusing and this can trouble the mind more than we'd care to admit. Sometimes I wish I could be the bigger picture just so that I could get a better sense of what's going on. With such major changes and unexpected events happening constantly, it feels as though nothing is quite as it seems. And this is a little scary.
But when I look back at previous times that were similar, I realize that they had a way of coming together and creating a journey that gave me what I needed most. So with that in mind, I am just going to trust that there's so much out there I cannot see and that there's always a silver lining even in the strangest and hardest of times.
So, there's really not much to tell. I'm a person of many interests, and talking to others about theirs.
So, I guess that's it for now!